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Frequently Asked Questions

Please read these FAQ responses to the most common questions, and if you need more information, use the Contact Us form below.
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  • -> There is a sobriety requirement of a minimum of 1-year abstinence from all non-prescribed chemical substances (including alcohol, drugs, etc.)
  • -> For men (ages 21+) who have preferably completed all 12-Steps with their sponsors
-> PDA welcomes sober men who have sex with men
-> We want men from diverse backgrounds, including all body shapes/sizes, skin colors, cultures, ages, socioeconomic statuses, & dis/abilities
-> Trans-men are welcome to PDA
-> Your input is invaluable to us, so please reach out via the Contact Us form below if you have questions, concerns, or suggestions
-> In our first year, we’re focusing on male-centric programming for men who have sex with men
-> We acknowledge the rich spectrum of gender identities and various sexual identities in our community
-> We are committed to learning and growing, aiming to increasingly address and include non-binary and diverse gender identities in our future programs
-> Some of our workshops may request that you be in various levels of undress
-> In some cases, participants will be invited to get completely naked
-> We respect all bodies as beautiful & will not tolerate shaming others for any reason

-> We welcome men to engage in a consensual exchange of erotic and sexual energy at PDA

-> Though there will be intimate touch and body contact, this is not a sober sex party, not a place to hook-up, nor a retreat simply for sexual gratification

-> The Academy weekend will be an opportunity to learn new intimacy and communication skills while practicing the tools of 12-step recovery

-> No, we do not define our Academy program as therapeutic
-> PDA is modeled upon the principles of the 12-steps of AA and CMA; while the Twelve Traditions provide guidelines for our group harmony and purpose
-> We guide men through skillful experiences, leaving participants to define its meaning & value
-> You are encouraged to get professional self-care outside of PDA, as appropriate
-> To create comfort & emotional safety of all participants, there will be no use of mobile phones in any non-private spaces until Sunday, the final day
-> No photography is permitted with the exception of the “Gear Profile Pictures” & until Sunday, the final day
-> Any photos require the explicit consent of all of the men in the camera frame
PDA is an immersive 3.5 day retreat which includes:
-> Lodging indoors for three nights in Deloro Valley’s beautiful Lodge
-> Shared rooms with individual beds (queen, twin, full, and a few bunk beds)
-> Nine Meals (including vegetarian options) Thursday to Sunday; prepared in their commercial kitchen & served in a large dining hall
-> PDA has a full buyout at Deloro Valley’s Base Camp buildings and amenities such as a great lawn and their large swimming pool
-> Your only additional expense to the ticket/registration is transportation to and from Tuolumne, CA
-> When you register via Eventbrite, we will email or text you to confirm your participation
-> If you do not hear from us, use the Contact Us form below to let us know
-> Academy registrants might be invited to a private Slack channel to communicate with each other and remain connected with organizers and presenters
-> You can get a refund of your ticket/registration until 30 days before the start of the retreat. For 2025, that’s before July 7th

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